Hmm, yes, maybe having negative expectations is as unhelpful as having positive expectations? I tend towards overoptimism and am disappointed, but maybe having a pessimistic expectation then sets both of you up to have that fulfilled? And yet having no expectations is sooo hard!
I have slipped a bit on dilly 2.0. I've done really well on alcohol, I had a few glasses of wine last night and then slept terribly so that was a lesson to me! I rarely open a bottle nowadays and have been drinking non-alcoholic beer if I fancy something which tastes different from water. Most nights I don't drink anything, though I do like to go to the pub and read my book with a pint so I did that again last week after a few weeks of not.
I have actually always been good at GAL stuff because H has worked such long hours so daytimes I've been good at seeing friends and doing activities. I go to an art class once a week, I do a lot of gardening, I read, I run, I do aerobics classes, I cook a bit. I have fallen off the yoga wagon and want to climb back on, and I would like to go to the cinema more and maybe meet new people in the evenings so I must plan stuff in advance more. Evenings are my downfall, I would like more regular evening activities especially as my teens are usually on their computers or doing homework then. Yesterday I was going to go to an afternoon group but ended up buying a car instead, which took over most of my day. I feel excited about it though, I'm picking it up next week!
Actually next week I have 2 great evening activities planned Tuesday and Wednesday so those will be fun. The end of half term I'm taking the kids and a friend of theirs away, and ds2 has a half day camp for 3 days of half term so I'll take him there and work while he's there. The bank holiday weekend might be trickier, I arranged to see a friend on the Sunday so I need to arrange stuff for the Saturday and Monday too, I'll check out local walking groups I think. I feel like what I need right now is new people in my life, going to the new office will help there too.
It's funny, the school holidays make life feel much more difficult whereas I always used to love them. I'm actually kind of dreading this summer, especially as ds1 finishes at the start of July. Maybe I need to just arrange to go away a LOT. Ds2 has asked if we can have a family holiday with ds1 and dh, because we didn't get that last year and next year ds1 is leaving school. I said I would talk to dh about it, don't even know where to start with that one. Not going on holiday together last year was the canary in the coal mine, holidays have always been where we reconnected as a couple and we used to go away about 4-5 times a year. I'm definitely not going to any old haunts, new places only! Maybe a long driving/camping holiday across Europe with ds2...
