A Real Mess Pt.2

[ovrrnbw]

You were encouraged to pursue and since it is what you want you decide it's a good idea...you'll show her how much you care, and she won't care. But you love her right? How has your profession of love worked so far? Has she changed her mind?

Her saying she wants to find herself is what most of the cheaters say. And you don't want to believe she's having an affair either....

I told her point blank that my heart is for her.

You told her you were plan B. She told you she is going out with people who are going to encourage her to have an affair.

Did she say she loves you and her heart is for you? Have you read DR? Do you know how ILYs work against you with a WAS?

If you love her so much, then respect her wishes and move on and GAL and stop trying to convince her that she doesn't really mean what she is telling you. Every time you beg and plead with her it makes her resolve stronger and you appear weaker. You think you can talk your way out of this but you can't. Your words are digging a deeper hole.

No more ILYs, no more weak behavior around her, no more pursuit.

Do what R2C said. Get some new clothes and go out tomorrow night. Interact with men and women. You do that until your realize there is life on the other side and maybe your sitch will start to change.