Help! I need some PMA advice! I'm struggling big-time in this area.
How do you guys maintain PMA day after day? I'm 2 months into this pre-BD realization and might have another 2 months to endure before the BD. Not to mention the time afterwards. I'm struggling. I've been DB'g for about 3 weeks but I feel like I'm slipping up. PMA is one of the toughest areas for me, need some tips.
U - the best way to be positive is to choose it. There is no other secret. You make the decision and you do it.
You can buy all the books you want, you can search all you want, you can travel all you want.
But at the end of the day, it's you. You choose to be positive.
I chose to be positive. Even if my W is flailing now. Even if it ends in D. Even if I am no longer an Unc to 4 awesome.nephews that I've become a second dad to. I want to see them. I want to be in their lives. Who gives a [censored] if its different. Its what I want.
So if I have to drop everything to make what I want happen, that's my goal.
My advice? Determine your worst case scenario. Think about it. Really. But positively. You want to see your kids, you want to have a good friendly R with your W? Then do whatever it takes to make that happen.
The rest? Well - that's life, man. We dont always get what we want. But we have to.pick ourselves up and keep moving
