I agree, its when they commit themselves to their EA or PA. All the red flags come up. You can literally search online for "Infidelity Red Flags".
You will start seeing them because its a script.
I saw the following changes starting in March 2018
Hiding the phone Obsession with exercise Obsession with looks Change of hair style Synthetic Nails Fake Eyelashes Change of grooming habits (started shaving it all off down there when she would never do that for me when I asked) Hiding the phone like crazy Hiding her laptop like crazy Coming home late Sitting in her car in the garage late to talk on the phone (OM lives out of state with his wife, kids and grandkids) Finding reasons to leave the house (I followed her and found her talking on the phone in her car at the gas station) Increase in traveling for work (OM is her boss) Ignoring me while traveling (used to talk to me all day in text and every night before bed) Increase in alcohol consumption (Went from a glass of wine every few days to two bottles per night) Changed clothes (started buying cocktail dresses instead of business attire for work trips) Started leaving earlier for travel and coming back later, I.E leaving Sunday Morning when work meeting was Tuesday. Coming back the following Monday when work ended the Friday before (used to make a point to be home on weekends and travel home immediately when she was done with work) Increase in younger/single/divorced friends (Made friends with divorced/progressive women from Yoga classes) Distancing herself from kids and I Getting mad when we questioned why she was traveling so much (travel went from once every few months to every other week for a full week) Removed herself from my credit card as authorized user (This is a biggie, they separate their finances) Started putting me down all the time Started telling me I was worthless Started telling me I was smothering her Started telling me she needed space
Boom BD, ILYBIDLY Boom confirmation of PA
Wow ST, I can check off several of these..... not all, but several. Tells me she's gearing up. I wonder if because I pulled the BD out of her she wasn't done setting up and it was dropped premature (maybe not - I'll never know).
