And if they are then that is not a WAS situation. There are a lot of couples that go through infidelity without a BD. They choose to work on things rather than split.
And if you go back to my original sitch post(s) I could 'argue' that there never was an official BD. I caught the affair and to me the excuses/conversations that happened were just the excuses/justification/etc.. She is out of the house because of me (not her). Maybe that is why I've been a little confused/different here. To me the affair was the BD then I BD back and then one GGW happened (might have been retaliatory) and then started some DB'ing (which has done very good at times) and here we are.
I get your point, I might just need another BD. But maybe not. Seems like the risk/reward is not too much to worry about. It doesn't really get worse.
H(me:) 44 W: 45 T: 16yrs M: 13 S: 9 S: 6 Pre BD (not really recognized by either) 8/18 PA 11/18 PA suspected 12/22/18 (Denied) PA confirmed 12/28/18 PA #2 (Different) 2/16/19 S: 4/7/2019
