I personally know 2 couples that have survived (currently) infidelity in closer to 6-9 months rather than the 12-24 that is consistently spoken about here.
This isn't an exact science. We've had at least two people here (Steve is one) that reconciled in less than 12 months and we've had quite a few that reconciled way past 24 months. I have a friend that reconciled after 7 years apart. But under 12 months is highly unusual.
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My IC also states that there are many that can start the piecing process MUCH sooner. Granted the key is both being committed to the work both together and individually.
And if they are then that is not a WAS situation. There are a lot of couples that go through infidelity without a BD. They choose to work on things rather than split.
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Cause I do get the feeling that she WANTS to date me again. I know I take risk here, but I have a hard time passing this up. My only stips are MC (after a couple of positive date interactions not as a prerequisite up front) and that we completely avoid or at least strongly minimize 'playing-house' as a family so as not to confuse the kids and/or opening the door for complete cake eating.
We give pretty consistent advice here, and some people follow it and some don't. That's your personal choice and more power to you either way. But nearly all the people that chose your path ended up right back here again saying "you were right, it didn't work." They usually just get BD affirmed to them all over again. But sometimes that needs to happen for them to well and truly drop the rope, so do it if you must.
EDIT- paging Maika. He thought the same thing you did, I hope he pops in and let's you know how that worked out for him.
