He was wanting both at first, but we had some knock-down drag out fights over my own jealousy. This is his bio-mom and I really wasn't understanding. I can admit that. He complained and complained about it. Said he didn't want to choose. Begged me to give him time to develop the relationship, and then after I kept it going: poof: BD.
I haven't been blaming him for his limerence. It a hard thing he's going through. I don't like his original decision to end the marriage, but I do think he's getting outside pressure based on what he's communicated to the bio-mom. I wouldn't say these are crumbs. I think he's had a lot of confusion. He chose to go off to be with them, but I know I put an immense amount of pressure on him. Something he has told me a couple of times. I have taken pressure off, and I hope that this makes him stand up to mommy more instead of identifying with her. From what I've seen people call crumbs here, I cannot say that he is giving me crumbs. Did you read the discussions we've had? I wouldn't call that crumbs. Baby steps, but not crumbs.
