Complex WW and/or MLC #3

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She has always given that feeling and originally that was always the intention of the separation. But I'm the one that followed the advice here and stopped that by stating that I wouldn't have anything to do with her until she basically came back on bended knee and dropped ALL OM, and my actions have maintained that stance. I'm not competing with 1 OM that she is 'in love' with. I'm competing with the attention "honeymoon" phase and feelings she gets from these (cause she got none of it from me). She has told me numerous times "I"m know one else's", I still see myself with you", etc, etc. All stuff that I know may not be fully trustworthy. But through our normal interactions through the kids I'm starting to see these comments in a different light.

I still do not want to date her while she is seeing OM (only so much of this I can control) but I do believe that because she is nervous/scared about whether this can work out or not she's respecting my wishes (not because she MUST be with OM) - as stated above I'm not sure waiting until she is 100% committed is actually the best course of action in my sitch. She's worried there is just too much damage to R - so I believe she needs to start to feel that we too can have a honeymoon phase and that there is reason to put in the work/time to fully R.

Basically she isn't 100% committed to our relationship (not necessarily because of OM) - so she is keeping distance for us both as requested.