One last point: I get that people want to offer sound advice, and I am going on limited knowledge because I haven't finished the book (chapter 4 here). Also, it's fairly hectic right now; I teach college and it's finals time! However, what I've read in the book so far doesn't correlate with extreme paranoia and high levels of detachment. So far, she has been repeating "Do not push or expect to go back suddenly to the way things were. Count each baby step and pay attention for them. Be upbeat and happy. Be welcoming."
Again, I haven't read the whole book, so I may change my perspective later.
