Let's go show of hands here on guys that have gone through breakups before prior to M. Like past GF's. Let's look at this from a social aspect, and a loneliness, and self secure aspect. What did you do when you started rebuilding yourself from a breakup? You probably bought new clothes try new things, made new goals, bought new cars, ate new foods, met new people, starting new activities, hobbies. Made some changes and resolutions, tried new music, visit new places. I want all of you to think about this very carefully here. Our WAS are leaving a M mainly because for a few different reasons, they want to taste of a new experience, and the Wayward case a taste of strange d&ck. They usually wind up revamping their hairstyles and makeup personal preferences their music their Hobbies their goals their desires, etc. We re-invented ourselves.Why? Because we had to reclaim our identity of who we were/are/will be. Because they no longer see a future with you after having our lives emeshed with other people.. Past history does not matter to them. F@$k the marriage. It's gone dead and buried. Bread crumbs mean nothing but plan b meaning "I'm not sure.. I would like to keep you around as a friend." Don't acknowledge it, or accept it. For 7 months ice barely worked on myself and re-establishing my social agenda and maybe have checked 4 out of 20 goals because of all the focus on the M. Its time to try new things, make new friends, get out of comfort zone, and actually do the things I either once did, or always wanted to. Is it any wonder why from the outside looking in our WAS appear to be having an MLC? They are not happy with us because they are not happy with themselves, but are trying to re-invent their lives, and it appears strange to us. Remember what I said about your time? It is valuable to you. Treat it that way. You are no longer important to them. When and if you ever will be again? You will know it. Everyday, I want you to set aside time not to think about M bit your future. Set aside time to think about M and limit it to find answers, set aside time, as hard as it is, to be alone, be lonely, do things alone. You have to get used to it and comfortable and make friends with it again as much as it s$cks. Get your priorities and Affairs in order to deal with this and make time for yourself to take care of yourself, read learn and try new things you have to take the focus off of them. Its called uncoupling. You have to regain your identity
