Midlife wife crisis6

[Wolfman]

Steve thank you for your input. I’m glad I made the right decision. That was not easy for me since I usually give in. I felt better later on that I made a stand.
LH. I am working on getting my “parts” back. I know I still have a ways to go, but I am working on it. My emotions are still very much a roller coaster. I wish they weren’t. I know it takes time. It just hurts while I am in his mess.

I have read so much on here lately and man I really gets me thinking. I read about other people’s situation, a lot of Sandi’s writing. I get what everyone is saying it just seems so counterintuitive. I read about the picnic outside the castle, the light house, sandi’s advice to people. I just feel like with my w I need to pursue, I won’t by the advice on here. It’s so hard to imagine attracting someone without pursuing. When I think how I won my w back in college I had to pursue. She is old fashioned where she doesn’t believe in women making the moves. One of the problems with our love life. I always had to make the moves. She never did!!! So I feel like giving her space is only creating more space.
Steve you said my Situation reminded you a lot of yours. Am I on the right path? I know she is hurting I just can’t tell if it’s because our marriage is ending or if she is having second thoughts, but her damn pride would never let her admit she made a mistake.