Never been a hug fan of the strip clubs. Unfortunately she can't take a trip for any length of time. She just opened her practice 7 months ago and is the only doctor so she can't leave or shut the doors. When she is more established then she will feel more comfortable doing it.
The week that I have my girls we only get to see each other 1 time which is either on a Friday or Saturday night. I will try to find a sitter, arrange a sleep over or like tomorrow send them to a local gymnastics place that does parents night out on Saturdays from 6:30 to 10.
The weeks that I don't have my girls I will usually see her twice during the week after her son goes to bed and now that our weekends are aligned we have been out to her ranch twice, once on a Friday another time on a Saturday. We road around on her Polaris, shot guns, did some work around the place, drank, had dinner, etc. We usually go to the gym together on Saturday's and Saturday night we will usually go out (my girls also had soccer games on Saturdays as well) and I don't miss them). Sundays are tough with church and getting stuff done around the house before the girls come for the week so we usually part ways on Sundays in the morning. So we just don't have long blocks of time together.
My youngest plays basketball and I coach her team. She is playing this summer so we will have 1 practice during the week and games on Saturdays.
I did get us concert tickets to go see a band in August. Now that it is summer we will also spend time on the lake boating. Once I meet her kid and she meets my girls its something we can all do together as well.
I'll do what I can to change it up some but so far time has been the biggest hinderance.
What's missing here is meeting each others' friends. Time to go out to dinner with some of yours or hers. You can tell a lot about someone by who there friends are and how they interact with your friends
you guys actually manage to spend a lot of time together. With small kids it’s really hard. But at least they force things to evolve slowly. I can see myself having trouble finding time with a guy that works a normal 9 to 5 shift.
We usually only go 4 to 5 days without seeing each other, it just may only be in 1 or 2 hour increments. She stopped over Thursday night for about 5 minutes to just say 'hi" and we kissed a little in my driveway. My girls were asleep but she didn't want to come in the house. Tonight I will see her for 3 hours from 6:30 to 9:30 then tomorrow night I will go over to her place after her son goes to bed around 8 pm.
I do feel my feelings growing and I am scared I think it might be love. On Thursday I felt the words almost coming out of my mouth. I know there is no rush so I will try to remain patient.
Being scared is good. It means you are taking this seriously. I'm very happy for you that you have found someone who you match with.
Even though you are a fair bit younger than me, a couple of things that I tell myself I think apply. - If this doesn't "work" you'll be fine - Her opinion of you or how she treats you is no reflection on you - whether good or bad - Have your own life and appreciate how she adds to the joy you already have inside yourself.
For me - "the words" are the point of no return. It embodies and implies a promise. Trusting your heart to the hands of another is difficult when that heart has been bruised and broken.
For B and I the first time we each told the other, it was done in a deliberate fashion on different occasions. Not everyone does that so if you know where your heart is and the words just happen to be spoken it's only putting words around something that already exists. Like pointing out the window and saying "horse" to alert the universe that a horse does indeed exist
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
Thanks A....I believe that I am there. I have no idea what the future holds but I think it is what I am feeling. I do understand what you are saying and it makes sense. I believe she is there as well but is laying back waiting for me.
We went out last night for a few hours and will see each other again this evening. Her birthday is Wednesday so we will be seeing quite a bit of each other this next week.
I am finding myself wanting her to be around more, doing things with me and the girls, etc.
