I never said he was perfect. I said he was a good husband. There is a difference. No one is perfect. I have almost had an affair myself.
I'm done with the forum. I have anxiety, and this forum is not beneficial for me to listen to at all. The book says to watch for baby steps and not to rush things. Listen to what they are saying. Listen for cues. Being in limbo [censored], but there is no reason for him to randomly bring stuff up and to start acting like my old partner again if he wasn't really attempting to begin again. He is relaxing and turning into the same man. He is mentioning things in the future, together. Not a lot, but a little. I am really tired of hearing that I should consider my marriage over, again and again. Maybe you are right and my marriage is over, but I don't need to sit in anxiety mode because that doesn't show positive changes to my husband. It makes me panic. I am not sitting there crying and begging or fighting with him. We are staying up talking until 12:30-3:30 AM. For someone to "play games" until 3:30 AM would be weird. Why not say, I have to go to sleep? Good talk.
I am following the advice in the book, and leaving the super =negative talk behind. I'm sorry. We did have issues in our marriage that won't be fixed overnight. Obviously, he hasn't completely snapped back, but he does seem to be coming around.
