Is he back home? No. Has he withdrawn the legal divorce proceedings?
He is home during the week and eating dinner with me and hanging out all this week. This is the first week he has actually been coming home in the evenings. Before it was 2:30 AM to not at all. We went to the lawyers to draw up the papers per prearranged agreement and he withdrew the divorce and did a legal separation so that we are splitting everything 50/50 and selling the house (something he's wanted for a long time now). He told me on the way out of the office that he is working on changing his mother's mind about me.
Last night after sitting down with the lawyers to go over the separation, we ate dinner together and he was talking about how happy he was and that he really believes we have too much good to throw away our marriage. He said, I know we can do this and make an even better, stronger marriage. I did not start that conversation. He did hold me a bit last night, and he said, you feel so good. He hugged me this morning and said he had a fun week and to be good this weekend. He goes to his mom's on the weekends. Baby steps. He still slept on the sofa and there is no kissing etc.
I don't think he'd actually have an affair with his mother. He couldn't do it. I know him. Married for 23 years. He had a mental breakdown once when he almost cheated 16 years ago. He was distraught because of the immorality of it all. I think he doesn't know this is a form of limerence, but you are right it definitely is.
