Adam, check into Retrouvaille. I think it would be an incredible experience for both of you and would pave the way to a recon with vastly improved communication.
Remember your job is to keep the way home paved and smooth. You don't want to rush back into anything, and you do want to make her do some work, but be careful about setting up roadblocks on that road home.
So you know I've been here a while. Even though most LBS's here think the success rate is low, there actually are quite a few recon stories. What you're describing about your W sounds like a real, legitimate recon interest on her part, very similar to the beginning of many other recons that have happened. Of course you are skeptical but your first step is this- believe it's real.
