I hope you're feeling better CSL. How is your health?
I'm not surprised you vented at your husband. I think you've been extremely restrained given the circumstances, and i know I've done similarly in the past. Sometimes it is just venting, and sometimes it has been part of setting a boundary. Sometimes I hear myself venting and I think - it isn't H that needs to listen to this, it's me - I need to listen to myself and understand truly how unacceptable I am finding this then make a change.