Complex WW and/or MLC #3

[GH31]

I know the DB strategy is to "move on NOW"

There is no single "DB strategy".

DB = use what works, reject what doesn't work.

You will be emotionally incapable of "moving on" right now given the timeline in your signature but what you can do is keep contact with her to an absolute bare minimum and GAL - start doing things which enrich you (as hard as that is) and 100% on your terms.

I'm going to give time and space and then give her one more chance to either begin piecing, hurt me again, or THEN move on - which for me means OW/Dating.

How do you mean "give her one more chance"? You have absolutely no say in that matter until she comes back to you, broken, and asking for another chance.

These situations happen in slow motion. There is no hurrying them along. You can hinder their progression by getting in your W's face and/or grabbing frantically at the morsels of bait she throws at you - just enough of it to keep you on the hook. The very best thing you can do is to get completely out of her way.

There is zero chance of this even resembling a marriage if she is out there dating/banging other men.

You will simply be used like a tampon and chucked aside as needed.

I have never once seen a situation like this recover unless the man took an extremely firm stand against his adulterous wife's behaviour, especially their inevitable attempts to have their cake and eat it too.