I would ask her what her intentions are before committing to going. I’m sure your IC and books can help you with what to tell the kids.
Yeah, it's a weird one to figure out. It is a form of R talk. And I already know her intentions, don't I? If she wants to BD in MC, rather than at home, well, I'm not going to run from it.
So I'm not sure about asking her intentions, honestly.
As of right now, I *would* want to work with her to align how we deal with the kids. At least as best as we can. I'd have to be careful that it isn't just a way for her to exert control. I think it would serve me well in future custody discussions as well.
Sometimes I wonder if she is going to say (in MC) "We move back to where we came from (2 years ago), or we D". That one's easy - I would absolutely move back, regardless of financial impact, but first we need to work on our M and be on solid ground. And that is going to take ttiiimmme.
