Hi Gerda! I have to say that you sound so much stronger since coming back to the boards. You may not feel that way (I think you said that somewhere), but you definitely sound that way!
I hope you are able to get your H out of the house soon. Having lived both (in house and out of the house MLC) I can tell you for sure that even though both are hard, having the MLCer out of the house makes your healing so much easier.
I concur that you shouldn't have your guy friend talk to your H. Nothing good can come of that. H would NOT take it the way you want. It is a tempting prospect, but I vote to continue to let the legal system do its thing...even if it is at a snails pace.
