That person we both want to be there is gone. It hurts worse than anything, but eventually we have to accept it. Part of the grieving process.
As for wanting immediate results: DB, to me, is about achieving results FOR YOU first and foremost. I know that's not the original intent by MWD, and she suggests adjusting your DB strategies every week or two depending on the results you achieve. But for most cases like ours... I think we have to more or less ignore results and outcomes (as far as your R with your W). Focus on the results for yourself. It's not about your W. There is no magic bullet. You aren't going to strike upon some magic DB combo that restores her to some earlier state. Try things, experiment, but do it for you.
