Thank you all for the advice, I am going to keep posting here.. It has helped me enormously, every situation is different but they all have the same characteristics... Today I made an appointment with a Psychotherapist, I need to learn to detach correctly and focus on myself.. I wanted to ''help'' him through this and in many ways be his friend... But I know that this cannot happen... I am not on his radar at the moment, he is enjoying being ''free''...I think him going going for counselling in many ways is a smoke screen, just to say he went and there is nothing ''wrong'' with his decision.I do believe he feels awful for what he did and when he did it... but he still left when I needed him the most....He felt he just needed to ''get out''.. I am also afraid that the counselor may encourage him to stay away from the marriage if he was not ''happy''.. Which has told everyone who will listen... God... This is a very complicated, frustrating, loonnnnnnngggg journey...I would love to have a crystal ball...
Thanks again for all the words of encouragement
Louise Age: 38 H: 39 BD: Early Aug'18 Moved out.Middle of Aug'18 In contact with OW since.....
