Confused by H words and actions

[Niall11]

So sorry for everything you have been going through.

My wife and I suffered a miscarriage four years ago, so I understand how difficult that can be. And that may have been really hard for him. But it was, and is, extremely hard for you also, and it doesn't excuse his behaviour. I can't imagine doing a BD on my wife two weeks after the miscarriage, or running off to be with another woman (or multiple women). I just can't imagine that.

For now, at least, you can't count on him at all. You're going to have to work on making yourself the best version you can be, and think long and hard about whether you even want someone so selfish back in your life, and what it would take for you to believe again that he's someone you can trust.