Finding the Balance then Tipping the Scale (3)

[Niall11]

I've never posted in your thread before, so forgive me if I'm getting ahead of myself.

I know there have to be conditions and transparency for a WAS, especially wayward, to be taken back. I get that it has to be something that would satisfy you. Access to phone is part of the deal in many cases. But navigating that is really difficult. Reading about polygraphs and security cameras and asking her to have her boss vouch for her has me concerned.

It sounds like she is trying to be transparent and wants to rebuild your trust. The question really is if you're going to be able to trust her again, and I know it's a hard thing to do. But for this to work, you have to trust her. Actually trust her. Polygraphs can be unreliable, but the bigger issue is what it says about your trust level. Say she passes the polygraph. Great. But life goes on. Are you going to want another one in a month if something happens?

Rebuilding trust is a long road, but if it's going to happen it's got to happen without polygraphs and cameras. Just my 2 cents.