The IVF process and then a miscarriage is a lot for a couple to navigate. I would highly suggest IC for you. And for him if and when he comes back. Likely he engaged with this other woman as an escape from the heaviness of everything the two of you were going through. Fertility problems, when they are on the man's side, can have a devastating effect on a man, and therefore on the couple as well. I've known several men that felt like their W's secretly resented them because of the fertility issues.
Focus on yourself. Detach from him. Go out and GAL. If and when he comes back insist on IC, and only after he's received some counseling engage in R and MC.
Remember, this is a marathon, not a sprint. Dig in for the long haul.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
