Help her move her new mattress? Don't you have plans already? I'd have plans if I were you.
Hahaha so I took along time to reply and then said, I’m working Sunday, maybe Saturday. And left it at that. Hey Ready just saw your reply as I was typing this. Editing to reply to you. Okay understood, I didn’t say yes so I can say I have plans. That’s interesting, there was an instance today where W asked me to do something and I said sure if you do blank for me. After that response she said never mind lol!
I’m a little confused in my sitch at the moment. From BD to now, W went from sure we wouldn’t be getting back together to maybe wanting to R. Went from no physical touch and recoiling from my touch to cuddling very closely every night, holding hands, long hugs. From not talking to me more than a few sentences to joking around and talking a lot. Went from coldness to playfulness and some s*xual tension. From disgust to attraction.
All of these are great signs I’m sure? But from the different sitches I’ve read I’m confused about my current approach. Some sitches I’ve read relating to separation where the H and W gradually start spending more time together and doing more things together leads to R. And then I’ve read stitches where going NC leads to R.
It seems that when I do things with her, our interactions improve and get better. She just hasn’t initiated an R talk where she discusses possible outcomes really. We had an R talk 3 weeks ago where she made it clear she wouldn’t avoid seeing other people. Things have improved between us x100 since then but she hasn’t told me she has changed her mind. So I am to assume she still feels the same? If she moves out and hasn’t mentioned a change of mind on this matter, I am inclined to see other people to.
I’m also curious about my level of involvement post separation. I recently read a sitch where the H started by just seeing or talking to his W once every few weeks. This escalated to them going out to dinner once a week. Then twice a week. And so on until R and moving back in together. Obviously I understand I won’t initiate dates or conversations but how should I react if she does invite me over or want to go somewhere? Thanks guys
