Hey guys hoping for some quick advice if possible,
W texted me asking if I can help her pick up mattress she just bought. I have been very firm that I will not help her move out or into her new apartment. That I won’t help build furniture anything like that. Things have been really improving lately but I’m not sure if I should help her. My manly instinct is telling me to do it. Any advice is appreciated.
Last night I was rubbing her back. She has been way more receptive to my touch since a month ago so I am initiating touch with her more and I think she enjoys it. I don’t think she sees it as pursuit currently. She made a comment after a couple minutes that I was only rubbing her back to escalate to s*x. (I was notorious for only being affectionate with her when I wanted s*x and otherwise wouldn’t bother doing anything like massaging her.) This was another thing of her laundry list so I tried to 180. I didn’t try to touch her sexually though and responded that while I would enjoy s*x, that wasn’t why I was rubbing her back. Not sure if I answered correctly but I guess my actions supported what I said.
More intimate cuddling through out the night. In the morning we both woke up. I brought our son into our bed as he had woken up. W started holding my hand, which hasn’t happened in months. A bit later I got up with son while W laid in bed a bit longer (another 180 for me). When she got up she came into living room and said, I want a hug. She came and straddled me on the couch and hugged me for a long minute. Also something that hasn’t happened in months.
These didn’t feel like temp checks as she has shown a lot of attraction to me the past few days. And then she texted me mid day about the mattress thing. What do you guys think? When she moves out I will not be doing favors like this for her without question unless she verbalizes wanted to work on MR. Is it okay for me to help her pick up the mattress?
