Originally Posted by AnotherStander
CSL, very sorry you are feeling bad, hope you are better soon!

Sometimes you have to vent on your spouse just to get things off your chest, it doesn't really help the sitch (or hurt it) but if you have to for you then you have to.

Sounds like you are taking the right approach and mindset about having no expectations. Like you say he's probably going to flip-flop for quite a while. And you are probably right that separation, as difficult as it is at first, may be best for both of you.


Thank you AS. I have not been this sick in years! I'm sure stress does not help in my recovery, but I am taking care of myself and getting rest and fluids. Hopefully back to 100% by the weekend as my student team and I are running a 5k!

As you said, sometimes you just need to vent. I feel much lighter. I don't think I had let myself fully cry yet, and I do need to mourn in order to move forward in my process.

I plan on giving my H the space he needs as I continue to GAL. We will see where things go from here.

Thanks again for the support.