Unchien. You're my hero. This entire thread resonates with me SO much. You're gonna do great.

My IC has a phrase that I have attached myself to:

"Today is Wednesday (or whatever day it is), and whatever happens today, I'm more than capable to figure it out."

Like you, I have attached my Ws affection to my worthiness and man has it gone terribly. It was never meant to be that way. And now unraveling myself from it hurts but is proving most rewarding.

I remember my BD day just 3 weeks ago. My W looked over at me, dropped it and asked, "are you going to be ok?"

And I said with a smile, "I'll figure it out"

I left after the session and wept HARD, but since that day I've practiced the art of walking in only today. And it's working. Not perfectly. But it's working.

H46
W38
M12
T15
D8,S7,S5

11/12/17 "I don't want to be married like this" A began
7/12/18 Confessed A
10/1/19 EA still happening with 2
4/23/19 "I want a D, but I want to stay until I find a job"