Married couple from Scandinavia

[BenB]

DnJ, thank you for yet another post that must have taken you some time to write. I haven´t had time to respond until now.

- regarding her moving out. I would never pay for her for a longer period of time. The idea was just 2-3 months. We are talking airbnb so any longer than that would be too expensive or not possible at all. We haven´t talked about her moving out in a while though.

- No sex. Ok, I hope you are right. I have always had a high sex drive so this will be challenging for sure. Right now, the thought of being with another woman disgusts me. It didn´t when all was well between me and my wife, I could feel attracted to other women but I would never cheat on my wife. My work puts me in situations where I have that opportunity if I wanted to but I would never do anything that would hurt the one I love so much.

- The above is also the reason why her cheating would be unacceptable for me. Even if it doesn´t mean anything for her, I feel the rage inside me would take over. I mean, here I am with such a high sex drive, forced into to not only no sex but no physical contact at all while she enjoys the very same things I am denied? I´m not sure how I will respond to that. What I do know, is that she would be absolutely devestated if she found out I had been with another woman, even now during the state of mind she is in.

- I appreciate your thoughts on me leaving her. I won´t make that decision now. But I don´t know how else she could fear she might lose me. I am focusing on me, I never make plans with her anymore, I work out, I practice martial arts like I´ve always dreamed of but never got around doing. She sees all that, she has noticed the changes in my physique. But I don´t think she fears I would leave her. I could be wrong but I don´t think so. For now, I´ll just start going out more on weekends and spend even more time with friends and family. It´s not easy because I have my dog that I have to take care of and I have to find dog sitters every time I need to do something which I do, but I´m not as free as I would have wanted to be. On another note - she absolutely loves the dog as well but knows he is mine in case we would break up. Back when things were fine between us, we took care of him together. Now he´s become my responsibility.

Thank you again for your support!