I didn't want to answer this earlier because it's very difficult..... and I spent years and years helping her cope. I've been reading HeartsBlesssing's articles today, and she talks about the different "faces" (or personalities) a MLC'er will cycle thru in the replay stage. So my W was raped when she was 12. Needless to say she was a very broken and troubled young woman with deep, deep problems when I came into the picture. Compounding this was her parents divorce around the same time (her mom also MLC'ed and ran away - like I put in another post on this thread). So that article makes me think at some point I'm going to come face to face with her personality from that time, most notably a young assaulted version of my W along with the aftermath teen. That's not going to be pleasant...... but I will stand for her. When I 1st met her, she was doing the whole rebellious teenage sex thing and I was the white knight that saved her. She would have destroyed herself back then....
