I can tell you it was soooo much easier as soon as XH left the house The energy changed Yes we missed him, but it just felt so much better having the period over of walking on eggshells and feeling hurt every night he came in late
MY kids them 5 and 11 adjusted well the 5 year old said he did not care and my 11 year old struggled more with letting him go but I become more connected to her and we would talk every night well she would talk and I would listen...not say much
I sense you will be ok you sound very grounded and wise
As for your H, I would not believe much of what he says and it was not our job to make them feel better about their choice to leave the family- and in reality nothing you could say would take away the way deep inside he must feel about himself-
you are doing great and it will get better- The hardest part is over-
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
