This is all great advice. I know I need to detach more. I have a hard time with that, but he was holding out his arm for me to touch it so many times yesterday that he is confusing me a lot. I have a hard time controlling my desire to reconcile.
He is controlling you. You need to read the pursuit-distance dynamic thread. When he feels control over you slipping away, he does things to reassert it. This is why detachment is so important. You need to work on getting to a place where he could tell you something shocking...something like he slept with 100 women at the same time, and it would be like water off a duck's back to you. When you react to anything he does or says emotionally, it gives him feedback about whether it is okay to run further or away, or whether he needs to give you a kernal of hope to get you back under his control.
Your goal is to BREAK that control. Again, he can't feel like he is losing you until he starts losing you.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
