What you said hit me straight between the eyes. I have felt for a long time now that the tables have turned and now I am the one who is responding to covert tactics - she does know exactly what she's doing and I have to walk on eggshells not to upset her as she knows I'm trying to salvage the M and keep the peace.
But I need to dig deep and do as you say.
She has ruled the roost from the moment she took the intimacy away 18 months ago (and then gave it away by PA for 9 months and EA for 6 months concurrently). It appears she is out of those now, I can't see anything suspicious and quite frankly I'm exhausted from being suspicious, snooping AND focusing on her.
I need to get to tactfully practice my responses "I have all the confidence that you can prepare dinner in the 3 hours". But I am keenly aware of my own propensity to be sarcastic and recovering from being belittling. This I can admit.
She is poking the h*** out of me with passive-aggressive jabs lately. Mentioning things "in jest" that she knows have bothered me, joking about certain things around the kids, trying to play house like we have a fun relationship still.
Long story short, I need to emotionally and mentally get myself doing this for me, myself, my sanity, my confidence.
H46 W38 M12 T15 D8,S7,S5
11/12/17 "I don't want to be married like this" A began 7/12/18 Confessed A 10/1/19 EA still happening with 2 4/23/19 "I want a D, but I want to stay until I find a job"
