I strongly advise against having your male friend come over and have a discussion w/your h. You do not want to drag another person into your situation and then your h turn around and use it against you, i.e., saying that you are having an affair, etc. Also, a conversation by an outsider will only make things worse for you and your children. He will then be even more determined to stay put and make your life even more bloody h@ll.
My advice, stick to the legal way of doing things and allow the system to do it's work. I know you want him out, but sometimes, we have to sit quietly and be patient because God works on his own time schedule and will do what he needs to do when he thinks it is time to do so.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
