It sounds like your D has a strong sense of herself, and that means you have done something right. It is great that you are able to take comfort and find joy in your time with her. Take advantage of that. It is a gift.
In terms of whether to stand or move on, that is completely up to you. You will know when it is right for you. My sense is that it takes longer with IHS and with children, but it is also completely personal. Trust yourself and take the time you need.
Just two quick notes on that - 1) Regardless of whether you stand or not, you are moving forward with your life. Not choosing is a choice itself. Just keep working on yourself, finding your joy and gratitude where you can find it. 2) If/When you decide to move on you have a brilliant future out there if you open yourself up to the possibilities. I remember my sheer terror a year ago as I faced the possibility of being divorced at 42. It shook my soul to the point of making me nauseous. Now, I see the blank canvas as a chance to do it right, to keep growing in ways that I never would have before.
hugs,
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
