A gang of mantle size DnJ and others telling off H. That brought a smile to my face. Lol.
Unfortunately the actual size version if us would do just about as well as our miniature counterparts. It would probably entrench H really deep, justify his version beyond belief, and cause all manner of problems. You think it is difficult to reason with H now, just push him and give him something to actually rage against. The slim potential of good that might come about is overshadowed by a real probability of worse from H.
That is also the likely conclusion of interference or manipulation from your guy friend. And believe me I would like nothing better than him, me, or someone else to talk some sense into these MLCers. Of course I would like to have started with my XW, and I left that alone, so you know I do believe in this viewpoint.
Gerda, you are not powerless! You are taking your steps, sought legal counsel, changed legal counsel, taking legal action, getting H out of the house, and moving forward. You are detaching, healing, becoming indifferent, helping son and daughter, you are really moving forward.
You are!
I would love to show up at your house. And enjoy a wonderful visit and coffee. You have my complete support with what you are doing (and yeah I’d like to throttle that H of your sometimes...grrrr).
Belief makes reality.
You got this Gerda. Believe it.
And while I’m at it:
Originally Posted by Gerda
And thank you for believing in me. You are biased no doubt but I like it! I do not think I do a good job at all, but I am happy that I have kept the lines of trust open. Parenting is one heckuva humbling experience.
You need to modify this a bit.
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And thank you for believing in me. You are biased no doubt but I like it! I do not think I do a good job at all, but and I am happy that I have kept the lines of trust open. Parenting is one heckuva humbling experience.
Really, you got this.
Believe it.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
