My take - all life is limbo. Change is constant - we get comfortable in our lives, and for the most part everything appears the same. But tiny minuscule changes are happening everyday, including with our S's and even within ourselves.
IMO it's our perspectives that suddenly shift when we see something in a different light. It happened with my W and this threw me into a tailspin because I hadn't shifted my perspective yet. Then gradually, mine shifted as well.
An example of this is when BD happened. W said it was possible to fall out of love without there being OP. My perspective is still what pre-DB W and mine had been: you have to work at love after yrs of being in an R. It is not something that "just happens". Its a choice. You decide to be with someone or pursue that person because of the feeling you have. But nobody forces you to be with that person. It's a decision you make.
Her sudden perspective shift on this really made me see how much change she had gone through in such a short time. It also made me start to question a lot of things, and through this I discovered that at least for me all life is limbo.
