I seriously just smacked my head when I read your question. Why, why, why would you ask her that? Do you enjoy pain?
I am going to be completely honest with you. I dislike your W as much as any WW on here in the last 4 years.
You have 2 young sons and you need to teach them not to tolerate disrespect from other people. Stop with the BS that it’s good for the kids. They will have the time of their lives going on a road trip with their dad.
Look man I know this is hard. Respect and strength is the only thing that will change your situation.