Hang in there Jim you were with the same woman for over 25 years. It is going to take you some time to fully move on and completely process. If you enjoy her company just be patient with yourself. There is no time table for any of this. Do what you want, when you want, and on your own terms. Just continue to hang out, hook up, and have fun.
I have been dating the same woman for almost 4 months now and my emotions still ebb and flow. She is completely different from my XW and that is taking some time to get used to. She is attractive, has a kind heart, is a giver so it is worth it to me to be patient with myself and see what develops. Her D and mine happened relatively close to each other so we are both on the same timeline which helps as well.
I will say that I have experienced more of an immediate connection and chemistry with other women but they didn't work out for different reasons. My kids are young as well so I have to also think about them in this equation and what type of person I bring into their lives. That person also has to be ok with me having my kids 50% of the time and are they willing to take on that responsibility?? I have learned there is more at stake.
You do have to be attracted but I think the rest can develop the more you get to know someone.
