Yeah things definitely fell apart toward the end there. We had both done a lot of drinking which was not ideal. The part about me bringing up possible OM. I have read in other threads that if the WAW thinks they are fooling their H about OM that they lose a lot of respect for H. So while I haven’t found concrete evidence of an EA, I am highly suspicious. She even said an exact quote that Michelle writes in DR that a spouse will say when involved with OP. There is a chance that she is telling the truth and that there is no OM, but if there is one, I want her to know she’s not fooling me.
You are right, I shouldn’t have argued on that one statement she made about me never being there for her. Currently she has rewritten our history and I guess can only see it her way for now. Is there ever a point where WAW sees things as they truly were? Or is it common for WAW to continue to view the MR in a false only negative way?
Although this R talk ended badly stander, the day after went very well. She apologized for the name calling and displayed a lot of pursuit behavior. She made a comment that insinuated that her D comment had no real substance behind it and she most likely said it to get a reaction out of me, which it did not.
Gotta get better at validating even when I don’t agree, thanks.
