Yes I agree with you actually, after the conversation (which took me by surprise) I thought a bit and realised I might have come across as a bit bossy and know it all. That's actually why I rang him last night, to listen to him instead of offer suggestions. He did relax as soon as I said 'I'm not going to tell you to take it', and I'm not. If he chooses to self-harm then I can't stop it, but I can't condone it either. Some shenanigans today concerning his weekend away (I suggested that I join them for dinner and he said 'the logistics were too hard') and he had asked to meet me somewhere after my race on Sunday and I pointed out that the logistics for that were a lot harder so I said I wouldn't meet him. I'm pondering whether to meet him for lunch on Thursday. Maybe a 3 week break without seeing him would be good for me.
