New to DB and (W)MLC, never thought it'd be me

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Really a big part of it was I got too soft.I deferred too much in this girl-power environment we live in. I wasn't decisive, wasn't assertive, and just wasn't as manly as I should have been.

This is something you can change instantaneously.

In my experience a woman cannot help but react differently once the man in her midst "mans up".

During my "situation" I went to great lengths to be as "manly" as possible and we had sex throughout it, even after she had moved out and, after she returned, when we were sleeping in separate bedrooms.

It would have happened anyway because of issues in her childhood and stresses at work (I'm a part of the problem but I'm not THE problem).

If your wife had a chaotic and neglected childhood then this unravelling was pre-determined long before she met you.

Explosives were packed into her psyche when she was young and were bound to be detonated at some point.

I've started to work out again (I get addicted to fitness)

Good.

So new to this process, but I'm learning voraciously.

Good.

I don't want to miss an opportunity to work on this early if such a thing exists. I've seen people talk about "catching it early" and I'm not sure what that means.

The earlier the better.

But, if there is a line of communication open then there is hope.

What happened to your W when she was young?

Based on what you've told me I'm sure it's an MLC. My W's MLC lasted 6-7 years.