Only you know, what is truly the right path for you to walk. And only you know, when you are done - there are so many factors, that we on the board are not aware of, and therefore we can only contribute with what generally works, and what seems to be a pattern when it comes to wayward and walk away spouses.
The thing that is really difficult is to pick and choose for the individual situation, and many times the LBS will see the advice on here as a full package that will bring their spouse back. Thats rarely the case.
This is about saving you, and making you heal and making you able to take on whatever comes your way. Whatever way you choose to. If you choose, that you are done, then we all support you, and we will continue to guide you after the very best of our ability. We are many that didn't get to save our marriage and are now divorced, and most of us are living very good lives and are happy mostly. I do my self get carried away from time to time, and find myself asking questions on here, but I tell you - A year ago, I was where you are now, and if I could watch through a time window back then, and see where I am today, and how my life has turned out for me and my kids - I wouldn't be so worried about the future - Everything will be all right.
Remember: If you choose to end things, then do it because it is what you truly want. Not because you are seeking any form of reaction from him. If you make an ultimatum, you will seal the fate on the deal, and if thats what you want, then go ahead. Its not weak, and its definitely not wrong to say goodbye. On the contrary you have fought, and you are very brave I think. I will be keeping up with your development, and I wish you the very best.
Last edited by Hurt213; 05/13/1910:34 AM.
BD: Wife says "its over" 11th august 2018. EA: June 2018 PA: August 2018 - ongoing Status: Taking turns 7 days a week to be in the house w. kids WW: no regrets, seems happy with leaving.
