I don't have any real advice about how best to deal with your daughter. I just dropped by to say that I realise it isn't easy and I can understand how difficult it can be for you. Whereas my boys are pre-teens, I have no direct experience to relate to, I am very aware of how difficult parenting can be, when we want the best for them.
I send you my best wishes and hope you find the best way to navigate this situation. I am sur ethat by being on this site and having dealth with a "teenage" spouce, you have some gained some Tools and insights to help you.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
