My STBXWW tried the "This isnt about OM, I have no future with OM" crap with me. There is no arguing with them. They justify everything they do.

Keep detaching. Stop talking about your H with your mom etc. Stop focusing on him. What he did or you did in the past doesnt matter. All that matters is right now. All that matters is what you are doing to focus on yourself and make yourself happy.

If you start thinking about your H, take a step back and say to yourself "who cares?" Then start focusing on yourself. What are you doing to better yourself? What are you doing to focus on yourself?

You are all that matters right now and the kids if they are still minors. Let your H go. Don't let his actions, words or emotions affect you at all.

Make some goals, find your path and walk it.

M:16
T:21
H(me) 38
WW: 38
S11 D16 D19
Red Flags of A: March 2018
ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018
Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018
BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018
D Filed: March 27, 2019