I've been changing my behaviors like crazy, really proud of that. Very pleasantly detaching and building distance (in some areas, not all). I think she's enjoying the extra space (I can see the less stress in her) and I've been lining up things to do away from the house like crazy. I'm doing all this for me, if she likes it.... that's a bonus, but I'm not doing it for her (consciously anyway, subconscious is a different beast).
We had started running together before the BD, and I haven't this last week because of shinsplints. What I really want to do is take aerobics class.... so today I told her once my knee was feeling good again I was thinking about not running and taking aerobics instead. She said "you could join a gym". Great!!!! One of the things I've learned in business (and M) is get people to think it's their idea. That was my goal. Turn something that could be a confrontation and instead I have a blank check to take as many classes at the gym that I want.Then if she does miss me at some point, she already knows she had a hand in it (IF she misses me, if she doesn't'.... too bad).
