Those are very good and deeply probing questions of your faith and beliefs. It is perfectly normal to feel uncertain, or unfaithful, or undeserving of a new M (with H or without), and helpless in all this. (((Gerda)))
The tempting allures of the world do seem unmanageably large at times. Indifference, the lessening of feelings, skews perceptions of other feelings, making those seem much larger and more real than they normal would be. It will flit. It will pass.
You are a strong capable woman, with a strong will; I see it, I believe it. You just need to believe it too.
I’ll pester and encourage you another day regarding your will power.
For today is your’s. Hug your kids. See all the love that does surround you.
Gerda, you are a wonderful caring Mom.
Happy Mother’s Day.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.