If when you say recon you mean stopping the D yeah the chances are low. Once the WW gets the courage to do it they rarely change their mind. Now after D is a different story. My brother-in-law remarried his w. Got d'd again but not the point lol. My best friend's girlfriend left him and remarried her husband. One of my best friends parents are back together after 35 years and they hated each other.
Right now you are acting out of fear and that is not a attractive place to be in. What you fear you attract. What you look at disappears. I've been in limbo and it is soul sucking. Being divorced is 1,000 times better then limbo.
Your wife will struggle being d with 3 young kids. I guarantee it.
