Unichen. This is going to hurt at first for you, but give her so much space that the silence is deafening, and your focus is nothing but your kids and you. You are not the one leaving the M whether W realizes it or not. Keep that respect for yourself. Its like, you are the one leaving, you are the one going NC, but you are the one level headed and emotionally level in front of her. You are moving forward in life without her, and in a sense, you are the one actually pushing the D without doing any of the leg work or mentioning of it. They are not coming back. They are guided by their current feelings. Let them go. Let them fail, let them explore, let them friend zone you, let them misinterpret you, let them do whatever the he'll it is they want to do. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU OR HAS ANY AFFECT ON YOU. You almost have to get to a place where you don't want this person in your life anymore, and don't care what they think, do, or feel, because they the ones quitting, rather than working, they are the ones holding in, rather than clarifying, they are the ones that want to go at it alone, than be a family. They are the ones that want to have you as a friend as plan b, than be your spouse, lover, and partner in marriage and parental partner. Its almost like you have to be so sick of the complex situation, feelings, actions, behaviors, trust issues, different points of views, and emotions, that you say F@$! THIS and save yourself, that you deserve better. But BE NICE. Im coming up behind you at 39 with a S1. I just started doing a lot of things alone with S1 lately. It feels great to known not only can I handle it, but look forward to it. It gets me out of the house, and keeps focus on S1. I'm getting ready to be a really good super dad, whether my W approves of my parenting, or not.
