Unchien. Happy 40th Birthday. The act [censored]. The emotional rollercoaster [censored], the situation [censored], the compulsive thinking [censored], the guilt and the misunderstanding and communication issues suck. Rest assured what you are feeling is normal, Don't allow psychology or your W to put labels on you, whether deserved or not. As time goes by you will eventually settle into the "new normal" and every day more and more, accept where life is going. But you also have to make it happen. You have to get out of the house and GAL or you will go crazy, trust me. Take the kids, round em up and get out for a day with them. Hang with friends, make a coffee date, watch a comedy, do whatever it takes to make yourself temporary happy and distracted or this whole sich will consume you.